EFT Webinar – Tapping on our Shadow self

Our shadow is made of parts of ourselves that we don’t want to look at; perhaps the negative or dark qualities of ourselves which we deny or resist.

All of our shadows have similar qualities.  They appear different according to our individual stories, yet they are the same.

Although they seem unique, healing one of our shadows can help us all to recognize the roots and heal as well.

 

In this video Mary serves as Judy’s client.

Click on the link below to be directed to Judy’s site where you can view the video.

(1 hour long EFT Webinar – Tapping on our Shadow self)

Mary tapping on her Shadow…..

http://www.eftradioonline.com/?p=18139

 

Birthdays!

Hello!

May 2nd, this is a special day for me.  New to this world a mere 59 years ago I’ve enjoyed a full and good life experiencing many wonderful people and events….Nature being my favorite companion, My God!   

As a woman in long term recovery from mind altering substances I celebrate life!  15 years clean and sober!  And, I’m committed to helping my fellows who are wanting to walk a road of recovery.  I work with adults (women & men) who are in early recovery, second stage recovery, aging in recovery and thinking about recovery,  I can help with many forms of obsession and addiction from food to prescription medication to alcohol and unhealthy attachment to those with an addiction.  Contact me, I offer strategy sessions that will help bring focus to what you are needing and/or wanting.

Back to my special day.  I plan on finishing this blog byImage

sharing an emotional self-management tool, a primary focus of mine.  From there I’m going to put one foot in front of the other somewhere out in this beautiful world and realize peace, assurance, gratitude and love.   After that I will be making gifts for those celebrating with me today as we do the South Santa Fe Art Walk here in Amazing Denver Colorado.

Constant worry and obsessive thinking, can you relate?  My motto is “it doesn’t have to be that way.”

Research has revealed what we have known for ages, structured writing can improve overall health and well-being. It’s a fantastic tool helping us stay in the day. Do you often feel like a pressure cooker of anxiety and worry! For me, 3 minutes of intense writing can make a huge difference. That being said from someone who “thinks too much and worries too much!”

There are currently programs and books on the market teaching simple writing tools…the basics for me are:

1. Address your writing to something bigger than you. Literally start with Dear…………and begin.
2. Editing is not needed
3. Write quickly (that’s how your mind thinks – quickly)
4. Write in phrases and jump topics by listening deeply to what wants to be heard inside of you
5. Truly write “whatever” the process creates relief…
6. You don’t need to remember what you wrote, the thoughts will come to you if they are needed..therefore, you may destroy the writing. And, please do if that’s what is keeping you from unwinding through this age old art of communicating with self.

Warmly,
Mary Brook

The Roller Coaster of Addiction

 

Living in this constantly changing world can feel like being on a roller coaster ride with no end in sight. Just when you think things are settling down, you round the bend and you’re headed up the ramp for another plunge. The first of the four noble truths of Buddhism is the truth of suffering. As much as we don’t want to suffer, don’t like to suffer, try to keep suffering away, it is unavoidable. With the experience of pain, there is a survival reaction that instantly and instinctively commands fight or flight. We feel angry, we feel afraid, we feel pain.

 

Sometimes we augment the fight or flee imperative by creating a shield to protect us from the uncomfortable rush of anger and/or fear. This could be through a denial response like “no, not me, I don’t feel anything right now,” or we might respond by reaching for some distracting behavior or substance. It operates just that simply—experience a bad feeling, then soothe (distract) with something that at least for the moment creates a pleasurable and distracting response. The diversion can be anything. And if we choose the distraction over and over again, it can create a groove, a habit, an automatic habitual response, a compulsion. Just that simply, it is possible to slip into the territory of addiction.

 

Yes, the term addiction can seem daunting and, well, downright judgmental. But let’s loosen that up a bit. Keep in mind that addiction is not defined by how much of some activity you are doing or how much of some substance you are consuming, but rather by the effect on your life and the lives of those around you. It’s not about the activity or the substance being inherently bad. It’s that your use of the substance or activity is causing harm to yourself or others.

 

Addiction is fueled by avoidance, by the urge to get away from something painful, by the desire to avoid suffering. Ironically, the running away, the seeking of the balm, the avoidance creates—yes, that’s right—suffering. The avoidance actually creates an ongoing cycle of suffering rather than leading to relief. Investigation and liberation of the underpinnings of an addictive response will not instantly cure an addiction, but addressing a root cause lays the groundwork for beginning to free yourself from the addictive cycle.

 

An alternative to continuing to be at the mercy of the imperative to avoid pain (and seek pleasure) that also comes from Tibetan Buddhist teachings: compassionate, naked acceptance or “compassionate abiding.” It is not complicated, but does require that you operate counter-intuitively, in opposition to your instinctive survival impulses that tell you to get away from that which is painful.

 

The first step is to recognize that you are experiencing something that feels bad, that is painful, that you don’t like, something that causes you to experience an impulse to make the feeling stop. If you can notice when you are experiencing the “get angry” response or the “run away” command, you have caught the moment.

 

Now, instead of doing the next thing that the “get angry” or “run away” imperative demands, you have the option to let yourself feel and experience all of the energy of the anger, fear, or pain. Actually breathe it in. All of it. If it tries to slip away, invite it back in. This is compassionate, naked acceptance. Through this acceptance, compassion for yourself can arise. It is finally okay to feel exactly this angry, this sad, this hurt, this pained. You have room in your heart for this aspect of your humanity. Even this part of you can finally sit down and have a cup of tea at your table.

 

Compassionate abiding with your own instinctive energies is not a technique to get rid of them, not to grow them up, not to transform them into something else. It is simply allowing yourself to experience the anger, fear, or pain that is instinctively arising to get your attention. You truly cannot rid yourself of anger, fear, or pain. They are instinctive responses. You may attempt to avoid situations that give rise to these unpleasant responses, but it’s not possible.

 

By developing your capacity to compassionately abide, you increase the odds that you will not need to choose a familiar habituated distraction that you may have been using addictively. If you are on a particularly intense part of the rollercoaster ride of your life, you finally can choose to simply fully embrace the anger, fear, or pain you are experiencing and compassionately throw your hands up into the air.

 

Through this simple act of bringing compassion to your pain, you are joining in the fulfillment of the prayer to free all beings from suffering and the causes of suffering. Even if you have not been choosing an addictive response, fostering this powerful capacity to allow your own humanity is a key to the development of compassion, which creates a basis for the development of compassion for all beings.

 

Testimonials

After my husband passed this past winter I was alone for the first time ever and not only grieving but frightened about re-defining myself.  A true low point in my life.

I had cared for critically ill family members for many many years losing myself in the work and their dependence.  And although hard to admit my husband was not only sick but verbally abusive so I wasn’t sure if I had self-esteem.

A friend referred me to Mary at Brook’s Life & Recovery Coaching and immediately things started to change.  Through her great listening skills, weekly tasks and suggestions my mind just seemed to open up allowing me to identify new goals and begin working towards them.

Although life is sometimes scary and different I’m learning to ask for help from my friends and family.  I’ve got a lot to live for including a new grandchild and re-emerging interests in life.

Thank you Mary!

Nancy Vaccaro   4/5/2014

Discipline and the Extraordinary

So a wise woman says to create a new habit attach it to an established habit

Tonight I go to an established group, an established habit with like minded people
We discuss moral and spiritual life, moral and spiritual behavior….lovely!

And then I attach a new habit with that habit of going to the club to swim
little voice says “maybe not”
I hear wise woman say attach a new habit with an established habit — okay!

I get to the club, get in my swimsuit, in the water….a little chilly and I start to swim
One end to the other end, one end to the other end, rhythmical breathing,
an established pattern, done this before

And it occurs to me if this were the last spring that I was going to be alive
I would be doing this, I would choose to do this, to be in the water and swim
from one end to the other, to the other, to the other……

Reflecting, I pick my form up a little bit, steady my pace, respect the water
and after a few more laps the extraordinary kicks in 
I’m aware that it’s an energy bigger than me, that lives in and through me
taking me from one end of the pool to the other end of the pool to the other end

And my swim becomes extraordinary, big, full and lovely!
Discipline and the extraordinary

Thank you!  Thank you!  Thank you!

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